Telling a parent gently
I've been learning about Islam and it matters to me. I'm not rejecting our family. I'd like to keep talking with you about it.
实用指南
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If you are a teenager and you have become Muslim, or want to, your Shahada is valid. You do not need a masjid or a certificate for it to count. This page is for you, and for the adults who meet you.
A SeekersGuidance teacher answered a 13-year-old who wanted to become Muslim (2023). She said the Shahada is all it takes. She also said, "For now, don't worry about being unable to cover, fast, or attend a mosque," and advised taking every chance to practise that you get.
So believe, make dua, pray where you can, and learn from a course or teacher you trust. Big changes can wait until you are older and your situation allows them.
Islam asks you to treat your parents with love and good character, even when they are not Muslim. A SeekersGuidance teacher (2010) explains that you obey your parents in everything except what would mean disobeying God.
In practice, that means helping at home, not lying to them without a real need, and not starting arguments about religion. Give them time.
This is general information about Ontario law, not legal advice. Other provinces have different rules. It comes from Justice for Children and Youth, a legal clinic for young people in Ontario, not a government page.
If you are 15 or younger, your parents or caregivers decide where you live. If you are not safe at home, a Children's Aid Society can help.
If you are 16 or 17, you can leave your parents' control without a court order. That is a serious step with legal, money and housing consequences, so talk to Justice for Children and Youth or Kids Help Phone before you decide anything.
An adult who helps a young person leave home can face criminal charges. So no masjid, mentor or online friend should ever offer to help you leave home.
Good teachers and masjids do not ask you to hide things. If someone does any of these, stop talking to them and tell a trusted adult or call Kids Help Phone.
If you meet a young convert, involve the parents where it is safe, meet in public spaces with other adults around, and never encourage a minor to leave home. If you are worried about a young person's safety, contact a Children's Aid Society, or call 911 in an emergency.
I've been learning about Islam and it matters to me. I'm not rejecting our family. I'd like to keep talking with you about it.
I don't keep secrets from my parents about who I talk to. If you want to help me, it has to be out in the open.
Do not go. Stop replying and tell a trusted adult. If home is not safe, call Kids Help Phone or 911, not a stranger from a chat group.
Stay calm and kind. Make dua, pray quietly where you can, and take the chances you get. If you ever feel unsafe, call Kids Help Phone, or 911 in danger.
这份指南是一般性的知识介绍。如果问题涉及人身安全、婚姻、家庭压力、你在工作或学校的权利、心理健康、金钱,或个人的宗教判断,请与当地有资质的伊玛目、学者、临床医生、法律专业人士或安全服务机构谈一谈。
这些资料支持本指南的总体内容,但不能代替你身边有资质的人给你的个人建议。
SeekersGuidance - Scholar answer
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad, checked by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani, 28 April 2023. Supports: a teenager's Shahada is valid and is all it takes; 'For now, don't worry about being unable to cover, fast, or attend a mosque'; take every chance to practise you get; learn online and make dua.
SeekersGuidance - Scholar answer
Ustadh Faraz A. Khan, 11 August 2010. Supports: love and excellent conduct toward parents who are not Muslim; obedience is limited only by 'There is no obedience to creation if it entails disobedience to the Creator' (Tabarani).
Justice for Children and Youth - Legal clinic information
A Legal Aid Ontario-funded legal clinic for young people, not a government page. Supports, for Ontario: at 15 and under, parents or caregivers decide where a young person lives; at 16 or 17 a young person may withdraw from parental control without a court order; routes through a Children's Aid Society; a person a youth lives with will not be charged with a criminal offence as long as they do not help the youth leave home.
Kids Help Phone - 危机支持
为5到29岁的年轻人提供的免费全天候支持(年龄范围来自加拿大政府页面)。请拨打1-800-668-6868,或发送短信 CONNECT 至686868。电话是保密且匿名的。短信是保密的,但不是匿名的;如果有人的安全面临风险,工作人员可能会联系紧急服务。核实于2026年9月23日。
Public Health Agency of Canada - 公共卫生信息
加拿大政府的页面,说明如果你身处紧急危险或需要紧急医疗帮助,请拨打9-1-1。页面还列出了9-8-8、Kids Help Phone、Hope for Wellness 以及各省的服务。页面修改于2026-01-14。号码核实于2026年9月23日。