Saying no to a money request
I don't give money to individuals. If this is for a registered charity, send me its name and registration number and I'll look into it.
Practical guide
Most people you meet at a masjid or in a convert group are kind and want to help. A few are not. This guide lists the warning signs that come up most for new Muslims, what to do about them, and where to report in Canada. Being targeted is never your fault.
One of these on its own does not prove someone means harm. Two or three together are a good reason to slow down and talk to someone you trust.
The Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre warns about people who ask for donations to a charity, association or religious cause, often with a lot of pressure. The Canada Revenue Agency says not to give if you feel pushed to give right away.
If you want to give, give to a registered charity rather than to a person. Ask for the charity's details in writing and for its registration number, then check it on the CRA list of charities or by calling 1-800-267-2384. Registered charities do not accept cryptocurrency, and cash and gift cards cannot be traced. If money collected at a masjid or an event does not add up, you can report a registered charity to the Canada Revenue Agency.
Marriage is a big decision, and it is fine to take time to settle into your faith first. You can say no, or not yet. A sincere person will be patient, and glad for your family, friends or a trusted imam to be involved.
The Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre lists these signs of a romance scam: someone you have not met professes their love, wants to move quickly to a private app such as WhatsApp, always has an excuse not to meet, gets upset to guilt you into sending money, and discourages you from talking about them with friends and family. Never send money or personal documents to someone you have not met in person.
The Anti-Fraud Centre also warns about sextortion, where a fake profile asks for intimate video and then demands money. Live video can be recorded. Do not send money, and report it to the police and the Anti-Fraud Centre.
Immigration, Refugees and Citizenship Canada (IRCC) says no one can guarantee you a visa or faster processing. IRCC will never ask you to pay into a personal bank account, send money through a private transfer service, contact you from a free email address such as Gmail, ask for payment by phone, or start a conversation on social media. Scammers also phone pretending to be IRCC and threaten deportation unless you pay.
If you are unsure, contact IRCC directly. For your own case, speak to a licensed immigration lawyer or consultant. IRCC's reporting page explains where to report a scam.
Be careful with any group that cuts you off from your family, other teachers and the wider community, asks you to keep secrets, looks down on most other Muslims, or stirs up anger and talk of violence. Public Safety Canada says violent extremism is not linked to any particular religion. It also describes online recruiters (its example is Daesh) who isolate people from positive influences and then move them to more private platforms.
If you are worried about a group, step back and talk to a trusted imam, friend or family member. If someone talks about violence or you feel unsafe, call 911. Public Safety Canada lists free, voluntary support programmes, such as ETA in the GTA and Southern Ontario (call or text 416-617-4561) and Project ReSet in Ottawa (613-789-7418).
When to tell people is your decision, and many converts wait for the right time. If someone at home might look at your phone or computer, remember that installed apps, browser history and messages can be seen. The Government of Canada's safety planning page warns that someone can monitor your online activity, and that there is no sure way to delete all of that information.
This site can be installed on your phone and keeps pages for offline reading, so it may show up in your apps or history. Private browsing avoids history but not an installed app. Use a strong, unique password and turn on two-step sign-in for your accounts. If you are afraid of violence at home, the same government page walks you through making a safety plan. In danger, call 911.
If you are a woman facing pressure at home, abuse, or the risk of losing your housing, these Muslim women's services in Canada can help. We checked each number on the service's own website on 23 September 2026. In immediate danger, call 911 first.
The police investigate crimes. The Anti-Fraud Centre collects reports and helps police spot patterns, so it is worth reporting to both.
The Anti-Fraud Centre says fraud can happen to anyone, and scammers often go after kind, trusting people. Being targeted says nothing about your faith or your intelligence. Stopping, asking questions and reporting are all the right things to do, and a healthy community will back you.
I don't give money to individuals. If this is for a registered charity, send me its name and registration number and I'll look into it.
I'm not ready to talk about marriage yet. I'm still settling into my faith, and when I am ready I'll involve my family or an imam I trust.
I need space to learn at my own pace and to ask other teachers too. Please respect that.
You never have to lend or give money. Say no kindly. If it keeps happening, tell someone you trust at the masjid office.
These are romance scam signs listed by the Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre. Stop sending money or documents, and report it to your local police and the Anti-Fraud Centre.
A real mentor does not ask for secrecy. Stop meeting them, and report it to the programme they belong to, or to us through the get help page if they are connected to Revert Guide.
This guide is general education. If the question touches safety, marriage, family pressure, your rights at work or school, mental health, money, or a personal religious ruling, speak with a qualified local imam, scholar, clinician, legal professional, or safety service.
These sources back the general framing of this guide. They do not replace personal advice from someone qualified and local to you.
Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre - Official fraud guidance
Supports: Secrecy, pressure and money as warning signs.
Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre - Official fraud guidance
Supports: CAFC fraud reporting.
Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre - Official fraud guidance
Supports: sextortion through fake profiles, that live video can be recorded, never sending money to someone you have not met, and callers pretending to be IRCC who threaten deportation. Page modified 2026-07-21.
Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre - Official fraud guidance
Supports: Police first plus CAFC; phone and hours; roles.
Canada Revenue Agency - Official charity guidance
Supports: Give to organisations, traceable payment, don't give under pressure.
Canada Revenue Agency - Official charity guidance
Supports: Reporting charities to CRA.
Immigration, Refugees and Citizenship Canada - Official fraud guidance
Supports: Warning signs and 'IRCC will never' list.
Immigration, Refugees and Citizenship Canada - Official fraud guidance
Supports: Reporting channels.
Public Safety Canada - Official prevention guidance
Supports: Isolation from positive influences as a recruitment tactic.
Public Safety Canada - Official prevention guidance
Supports: the list of voluntary prevention programmes, including ETA (Yorktown Family Services) and Project ReSet (John Howard Society of Ottawa, 613-789-7418). Page modified 2026-07-03.
ETA (Yorktown Family Services) - Prevention support service
Supports: ETA contact and eligibility.
Government of Canada - سیفٹی پلاننگ کی معلومات
خاندانی حفاظت کے لیے استعمال کیا گیا نوٹ کہ نقصان کا سامنا کرنے والے صارفین کو انکشاف کرنے سے پہلے قابل اعتماد پیشہ ورانہ یا مقامی مدد حاصل کرنی چاہیے۔
Get Cyber Safe (Government of Canada) - Official online safety guidance
Supports: Passphrases and MFA.
Government of Ontario - Official provincial guidance
Supports: Duty to report in Ontario.
Ottawa Police Service - Police service page
Supports: the non-emergency line 613-236-1222 (TTY 613-232-1123) and online reporting. Given as an example of a local non-emergency route.
Ontario Provincial Police - Police service page
Supports: the OPP non-emergency line 1-888-310-1122, online reporting for minor incidents in OPP-policed areas, and 911 for emergencies.
Public Health Agency of Canada - Public health information
The Government of Canada page that says to call 9-1-1 if you are in immediate danger or need urgent medical help. It also lists 9-8-8, Kids Help Phone, Hope for Wellness and each province's services. Page modified 2026-01-14. Numbers checked on 23 September 2026.
Sakeenah Canada (registered charity) - Women's crisis and housing support
Supports women and children leaving domestic violence, homelessness and poverty, with homes in several Canadian cities. Its 24/7 emergency hotline is 1-888-671-3446 (confirmed on https://sakeenahcanada.com/service/emergency-hotline/). The hotline page also says to call 9-1-1 in immediate danger. Checked on 23 September 2026.
Nisa Foundation (registered charity) - Peer support helpline
Free, confidential peer support for Muslim women and girls aged 14 and up. Call +1 888 711 6472, 7 days a week, 8 AM to midnight Eastern time. It is peer support, not a crisis line. The same page's FAQ still shows an older number (1-888-315-6472); the header number was used. nisahelpline.org is now a parking page and is not linked. Checked on 23 September 2026.
Nisa Foundation (registered charity) - Women's shelter
Nisa Homes is a Nisa Foundation program offering safe shelter for women and children, with locations across Canada. Apply through the Nisa Foundation site or call the helpline, +1 888 711 6472. nisahomes.com could not be opened, so it is not linked. Checked on 23 September 2026.
Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH), funded by the Government of Canada - Crisis support
Canada's national suicide crisis helpline. Call or text 9-8-8, 24 hours a day, every day of the year, in English and French. Led by CAMH and funded by the Government of Canada. Checked on 23 September 2026.