Telling a parent gently
I've been learning about Islam and it matters to me. I'm not rejecting our family. I'd like to keep talking with you about it.
Практическое руководство
Awaiting scholar review
If you are a teenager and you have become Muslim, or want to, your Shahada is valid. You do not need a masjid or a certificate for it to count. This page is for you, and for the adults who meet you.
A SeekersGuidance teacher answered a 13-year-old who wanted to become Muslim (2023). She said the Shahada is all it takes. She also said, "For now, don't worry about being unable to cover, fast, or attend a mosque," and advised taking every chance to practise that you get.
So believe, make dua, pray where you can, and learn from a course or teacher you trust. Big changes can wait until you are older and your situation allows them.
Islam asks you to treat your parents with love and good character, even when they are not Muslim. A SeekersGuidance teacher (2010) explains that you obey your parents in everything except what would mean disobeying God.
In practice, that means helping at home, not lying to them without a real need, and not starting arguments about religion. Give them time.
This is general information about Ontario law, not legal advice. Other provinces have different rules. It comes from Justice for Children and Youth, a legal clinic for young people in Ontario, not a government page.
If you are 15 or younger, your parents or caregivers decide where you live. If you are not safe at home, a Children's Aid Society can help.
If you are 16 or 17, you can leave your parents' control without a court order. That is a serious step with legal, money and housing consequences, so talk to Justice for Children and Youth or Kids Help Phone before you decide anything.
An adult who helps a young person leave home can face criminal charges. So no masjid, mentor or online friend should ever offer to help you leave home.
Good teachers and masjids do not ask you to hide things. If someone does any of these, stop talking to them and tell a trusted adult or call Kids Help Phone.
If you meet a young convert, involve the parents where it is safe, meet in public spaces with other adults around, and never encourage a minor to leave home. If you are worried about a young person's safety, contact a Children's Aid Society, or call 911 in an emergency.
I've been learning about Islam and it matters to me. I'm not rejecting our family. I'd like to keep talking with you about it.
I don't keep secrets from my parents about who I talk to. If you want to help me, it has to be out in the open.
Do not go. Stop replying and tell a trusted adult. If home is not safe, call Kids Help Phone or 911, not a stranger from a chat group.
Stay calm and kind. Make dua, pray quietly where you can, and take the chances you get. If you ever feel unsafe, call Kids Help Phone, or 911 in danger.
Это руководство даёт общие знания. Если вопрос касается безопасности, брака, давления семьи, ваших прав на работе или в учёбе, психического здоровья, денег или личного религиозного решения, поговорите со знающим местным имамом, учёным, врачом, юристом или службой безопасности.
Эти источники подтверждают общий подход руководства. Они не заменяют личного совета знающего человека рядом с вами.
SeekersGuidance - Scholar answer
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad, checked by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani, 28 April 2023. Supports: a teenager's Shahada is valid and is all it takes; 'For now, don't worry about being unable to cover, fast, or attend a mosque'; take every chance to practise you get; learn online and make dua.
SeekersGuidance - Scholar answer
Ustadh Faraz A. Khan, 11 August 2010. Supports: love and excellent conduct toward parents who are not Muslim; obedience is limited only by 'There is no obedience to creation if it entails disobedience to the Creator' (Tabarani).
Justice for Children and Youth - Legal clinic information
A Legal Aid Ontario-funded legal clinic for young people, not a government page. Supports, for Ontario: at 15 and under, parents or caregivers decide where a young person lives; at 16 or 17 a young person may withdraw from parental control without a court order; routes through a Children's Aid Society; a person a youth lives with will not be charged with a criminal offence as long as they do not help the youth leave home.
Kids Help Phone - Кризисная помощь
Бесплатная круглосуточная поддержка для молодёжи от 5 до 29 лет (возрастной диапазон со страницы правительства Канады). Звоните 1-800-668-6868 или отправьте CONNECT на 686868. Звонки конфиденциальны и анонимны. Сообщения конфиденциальны, но не анонимны, и сотрудники могут связаться с экстренными службами, если чья-то безопасность под угрозой. Проверено 23 сентября 2026 года.
Public Health Agency of Canada - Информация о здоровье
Страница правительства Канады, где сказано звонить 9-1-1 при непосредственной опасности или необходимости срочной медицинской помощи. Там также перечислены 9-8-8, Kids Help Phone, Hope for Wellness и службы каждой провинции. Страница изменена 2026-01-14. Номера проверены 23 сентября 2026 года.